Morning of Mother’s Day 2024

Yes, Woolies delivered against quite a spectacular backdrop…

Look to the far left…

On Facebook there was such depressing news coming in from Gaza. Think of the mothers there, eh!

And so many more, so many more….

One clings to the voices of hope and love in these dark times, this from Israel and the beautiful but comparatively tiny jewel known as Hand-in-Hand, a school network for Israelis of ALL faiths and ethnicities.

That was made just THREE DAYS AGO!

This was not one of them. My graduation. First in the family to gain a university degree.

Flowers and grief: for my mother

Posted on  by Neil

Recently I posted about Vermont Street, Sutherland, where I lived from 1952-1955, and again in 1963-4. The circumstances of that first sojourn are well expressed in my mother’s words from the 1960s:

Then in 1945 the guns of War ceased. We hoped so vainly they had stopped for all time–and the father came home. The next few years held struggle of a different kind for the young weary parents whose lives, like so many, had been so deviously interrupted. To return to the normal, the everyday, does not perhaps seem difficult, but it is so very difficult, as so many found. Everything had altered, values and concepts had changed. One thing sustained this young family–the love of man for woman, of woman for man, of man and woman for their children. To hope, to pray, with faith, that some day, sometime, there would be a better world for all to live in. Again the years went swiftly–two years, four years, ordinary troubles, measles, mumps, broken arms, children’s hurts to mend–the guiding, the helping, the encouraging, the children growing, the joys, the laughter.

The babe of 1940 [my sister Jeanette] was now a slight, fair, lovable schoolgirl of twelve. So proud were the parents of this so dear a child who held the promise of the future in her clear blue eyes. The dreams they had–the dreams she had–such lovely dreams, such beautiful golden dreams.

The father and the mother bought a house, their first “own” home. Just an ordinary house in an ordinary street, in an ordinary suburb, in an Australian city. A house with room enough for the children to grow in to live in, to be “home” in all its true and good meaning. Moving day came with all its pressures, its turmoils, but with happiness in the hearts. The unseen figure in the shadows moved closer and struck, taking with it back to the shadows the beloved child, the child with so much promise, so many dreams–the child whose very presence had helped the mother’s war-torn soul through the years and whose sparkling nature had helped the father through the rehabilitation period. The beloved blue eyes were closed to this world forever.

So we were all grieving in that place, I see now more clearly: my father, brother, and myself no less than my mother. I can recall nightmares often involving death, and odd little memorials made of pebbles that I would make in various obscure parts of the garden.

My mother took to growing flowers, even winning a prize in the local flower show for her pansies or sweet peas or violets — I don’t quite recall which. Her flowers were those of that time — no natives among them. That came later when we moved to Kirrawee and had waratahs and wattles and bottlebrush in abundance.

So the Class of 59 Reunion photo came yesterday

See From my past they come — the boys of 70 years ago…

There am I in the back row, circled. And to the right (from your viewpoint) if memory serves is Laurence Napier, and to the left Brian Smith and next to him Ross Mackay. Laurence, Ross and I all in 1955 went on to Sydney Boys High, which is to say the Class of 1959. Which recently had its 65th Reunion.

I did not go, but celebrated the event here and in the Facebook Old Boys Group with the earlier posts in this series. Via Facebook my 1959 classmate and FB friend Richard Buckdale, who did go, told me how it had turned out. Until yesterday no photo was available.

Here is his email.

Greetings to all SHS Class of 1959 members! Our Class Reunion at the School on 14 April 2024 was a great success! If you attended…..many thanks! If you apologized….you must have a ‘better option’ …or were sick! (really!)

The Headmaster – Kim Jagger AO attended – & spoke well!

We look forward to you joining us in April 2026 on our next Reunion.

Attached is the photo we had taken on the day! See if you can recognize any of your old Class mates?

Best wishes,

Ian D. Toll

Reunion Organiser.

Ever the optimist, Ian! We’ll see how we feel should we indeed see 2026!

As for the photo, I have studied it carefully now. Ian I instantly recognised, but him I had seen on many occasions since 1959, including many a time at SBHS when I was on staff and he was working with the School’s Foundation organisation. And of course I recognised next to him the Boss, Kim Jaggar! But beside him is none other than Ross Mackay! Yes, the very same from Sutherland days, including not only Sutho Public but also for some years Sutherland Presbyterian Church. I in fact knew the family, visited his place in Kirrawee more than once, met his brother and sister — I thnk he had a brother, but am sure about the sister. And Ross 2024 edition has about the face a bit of a look of his mother, I think.

Not that you will see that, because I have decided on privacy grounds to post a disguised version of the pic, which still lets you see how many of us turned up. If later I get permisssion to post the clean copy I will.

The spotty Class of 1959

Translation not needed as we were taught by Edgar Bembrick!

Seriously Australian national songs

Me in 1951 with my classmates

This was the anthem then:

I remember us learning this too around that time:

Maybe we learned the song because 1951 was a special year:

There are a few dates there that might be thought of for a future national day… Seems that in 1951 we were getting used to a NEW NAME for that national day on 26th January, or the Monday nearest. The exact day was not mandatory.

I remember hearing it called Anniversary Day and being more a NSW thing really…. And mostly we had the red flag….

… though in recent years that has been hijacked by some ult-right types I would rather not know.

At school we all got a medal! I lost mind decades ago….

I distinctly recall the souvenir book we all received in 1951, early in the year I suspect, as close as possible to the Anniversary of Federation.

Again mine is long lost, but I remember reading it on the day we got it — and that in the company of my sister, who died the following January. My memory is that this happened in the school playground and we were sitting side by side.

This could only have been in the Infants School, so I would have been in 2nd Class. The Infants playground overlapped with the Girls’ playground, but the Boys’ (Grades 3-6) was a block away on President Avenue. No girls were ever seen there. Yet that 1951 class photo, taken later in the year, shows me in 3A at the Boys’ school!

I started school in 1949, yet in 1951 I had skipped a grade. I think my time in 2nd Class was rather short. I do recall having my reading tested by the Head of Infants, Miss Bevan, and I think what happened was that I was accelerated into 3rd Class, whose teacher was a Mr McEwan. Very fond of music and very insistent on correct singing of God Save the King! Had an awsome collection of canes as well….

By weird coincidence my first practice teaching session was just ten years later at Jannali Public School — and the teacher I was assigned to was the very same Mr McEwan!

I seem to recall having brought from home a book about trains which was way beyond where i was supposed to be in reading age. I think Miss Bevan not only got me to read it aloud but also tested whether I understood it. Which I did.

I could read and to a degree write even before I started school, partly because my Grandfather Roy was a retired teacher and he taught me — not strictly with phonics either! At home in 1951 I was already reading such books as Leslie Rees’s Karrawingi the Emu and even more advanced books.

In 1950 I was given a copy of this and rarely had my nose out of it!

And yet in 1950-51 we were taught this song, either via The School Magazine or the radio school music program. Some progressives in the NSW Education Department woodwork? Pre-woke woke?

I found the song because after 70+ years I still remembered it — words and tune!